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Nellie Chu Eye Hoe Tay was born on December 25, 1937, in Xiamen, Fujian Province, China. At a
young age she was sent to Burma to live with relatives. She married Samuel Soo Lam Tay on
October 2, 1961, at the Chinese Methodist Church in Rangoon, Burma. They had 4 children: Paul,
John, Peter and Elizabeth. She had 3 grandchildren: Kathryn, Alice, and Alex. She was preceded in
death by her parents, Bing Hock Ho and Leu Lu Kei; her husband, Samuel Tay; her son, John Tay;
her two brothers, and her sister.
A Celebration of Life will be held at Trinity United Methodist Church, 237 N. Water Ave. Idaho Falls, ID
on Wednesday, September 9, 2026 at 10:00 a.m. Visitation at 9:00 a.m. at Trinity.
Nellie’s birth family, which included several girls, farmed sweet potatoes in the small village of Dong
Keng in Fujian Province, China. As a young girl, Nellie worked on the farm. It was grueling work, and
Nellie had a scar on her leg from an accident with a farm tool. When Nellie was 11 years old, a girl
cousin fell from a roof and was not expected to live. Nellie’s grandmother suggested she go to live
with that family so they could have a daughter. Accompanied by an uncle, she travelled from Dong
Keng to Rangoon, Burma. Fortunately, the other daughter survived the fall and became Nellie’s big
sister. Nellie was treated very well by her adopted family. Her adopted mother was a nurse, and her
adopted father worked at the school. Because Nellie did not like house work, her family chore was to
do the grocery shopping. Without refrigerators in the home, this had to be done daily. She graduated
from the Chinese Methodist School. In high school, Nellie enjoyed playing tennis. A strong faith in
God was instilled in her through the Chinese Methodist Church in Rangoon. Her faith buoyed her
through difficult times in her life.
Nellie’s father had a side job packing tea. It was loose-leaf tea that was folded into paper and packed
into boxes. The whole family would often stay up late into the night packing tea. Later in life, Nellie
visited the Celestial Tea factory in Colorado and was amazed by the automation.
After college, Nellie taught Kindergarten for a short time. She often recalled her first day of teaching
when the mischievous children hid in the cabinets and refused to come out. Nellie was fluent in
several languages including English, Burmese, Mandarin, Fuchinese, and some Cantonese.
In 1961, Nellie married Samuel Soo Lam Tay in a ceremony at the Chinese Methodist church. It was
an arranged marriage that endured until Samuel’s death in 1991. Paul was born on September
1,1962. John was born on July 14,1964. Peter arrived on September 6,1965. Elizabeth was born on
September 30, 1968.
After Burma gained its independence from British colonization in 1948, the political climate in Burma
became increasingly violent and repressive. The government was run by a socialist military regime
that levied quotas on the amount of profit Samuel could make in his import business. He owned and
operated a business importing porcelain goods from China. Restrictions were placed on the amount
of product he could import and the price he could charge. The business was unable to support the
family and so Samuel developed a network of proprietors and shops, but he was actually the owner.
Some might describe the network as “clandestine”. Others might call it “resourceful survival”. The
Burmese government suspected his activities and conducted surveillance. Late one night, police
officers raided the family home and turned the apartment upside down searching for unauthorized
wares. After that experience, Nellie decided Burma was no longer safe and wanted to leave. Mrs.
Hazel Winslow, an American missionary serving in Burma, helped Samuel apply to the World Council
of Churches for a sponsor in the United States. Boston Avenue United Methodist Church in Tulsa,
Oklahoma, was matched with the Tay family. Specifically, it was the Mr. and Mrs. Sunday School
Class of Boston Avenue United Methodist Church that would serve as the sponsor.
The paperwork to enter the US was approved for all six family members, but the Burmese
government refused to allow Samuel to leave Burma.They would only allow Nellie and the four
children to leave. This is the reason the passport picture only includes Nellie and the 4 children.
Nellie was distraught about going to a foreign country without knowing the language with four young
children. She prayed to God for help. Just hours before the visa to leave Burma for Nellie and the
children expired, a door opened. A general who lived in the jungle outside of Rangoon was willing to
sign Samuel’s exit visa. Nellie, riding on the back of a cousin’s motorcycle, went to the general’s
house under the cover of darkness. She attained the signed paperwork. In March 1971, the family left
Burma via airplane with two trunks, filled with their most precious worldly belongings and $30. Nellie
managed to find room in the trunks to pack the precious Bible she was given on her wedding day and
her English-Burmese Dictionary.
Elizabeth, at 2 ½ years old, enjoyed walking the aisle of the airplane and talking to strangers. During
the layover in Hong Kong, the 3 boys enjoyed the amenities at the hotel, including the banisters of the
stairs which could quickly zip them down to the lobby.
The family of six arrived at Tulsa International Airport in March 1971. They were greeted by Dr. and
Mrs. Duane and Sue Brothers, who with other members of the Mr. and Mrs. Sunday School Class
including Dr. and Mrs. Frank and Joanna Clingan, Mr. and Mrs. Dick and June Cleverdon, Mrs. Joyce
Beasley, Mrs. Jerry Kaufman, Mr. and Mrs. Taylor and Joanne Brown, Mr. and Mrs. Dale and Vivian
Woods and Dr. and Mrs. Jay and Ruby Farrish became loyal, lifetime friends. They furnished a rental
house just blocks from the church. They even had a job waiting for Samuel. The Tay’s first meal in
Tulsa was hosted by Mr. and Mrs. Dale Woods. Nellie really enjoyed the buttered corn and asked
Mrs. Woods to show her how to make it that very evening. She put the corn in a pan, added water,
and boiled it. Before serving, she added butter.
The next day, the church folks had a “pound” party where each person brought a pound of something:
a pound of flour, a pound of sugar, a pound of oil, etc. Mrs. Woods brought popcorn and a popcorn
popper. Nellie only heard that it was corn and she excitedly cooked it just as Mrs. Woods had showed
her the night before. She put it in a pan with some water, added butter and boiled it. She boiled and
boiled and boiled it, but it wouldn’t get soft like Mrs. Woods’ corn. Finally, Nellie called her on the
phone and asked why her corn didn’t get soft. Mrs. Woods burst out laughing because it was
popcorn, which should be cooked with the popcorn popper. This was a story the two of them enjoyed
together for many years to come. The family enjoyed the popcorn popper once they learned how to
use it, and Nellie learned how to make many other American dishes in addition to boiled corn.
In Burma, women were expected to stay home with the children, not work outside the home. In the
United States, two incomes were needed to support the family. Nellie rose to the challenge by
learning how to sew and got a job in a sewing factory. Then she learned to cook, first working in a
Chinese restaurant. She worked as a cook at Denny’s for many years. She was an extremely hard
worker, sometimes working double 8-hour shifts multiple days in a row. She worked on her birthday,
which was also Christmas, for the double overtime pay. She usually worked on Sundays and wasn’t
able to attend church. Through Denny’s profit-sharing model, she earned enough money to make a
down payment on a home on Toledo Avenue in a nice part of Tulsa in 1976.
The family became US citizens on May 26, 1977, after living in the US for 6 years. It was a
memorable day for Elizabeth who was allowed to attend the naturalization ceremony instead of
school. A celebratory lunch was enjoyed at Denny’s where Nellie worked. The family rarely ate out, so
this was quite a treat. Nellie and Sam were very frugal. On family outings, usually fishing at Keystone
Lake, Nellie would make steamed buns filled with meat for the road. Since we were the only Chinese
family in Tulsa, Chinese New Year celebrations were not elaborate. Nellie would make sweet rice
cakes which were so sticky, she cut it by wrapping sewing thread around it and pulling the thread
together.
Nellie had a gift with food. She could design and create beautiful food sculptures. Nellie invented
chicken nuggets before McDonalds made them popular. She called them “chicken cookies” and they
were always popular at church potlucks. Elizabeth loved church potlucks. because it was the only time
Nellie would make her unique shrimp chips.
When Elizabeth got married, Nellie made her own dress for the wedding. It was pink lace, two of her
favorite things in the world: the color pink and lace. Nellie also catered the wedding meal. It was a
feast fit for royalty including her special egg rolls.
With the money from Samuel’s life insurance, Nellie invested in real estate. She owned 5 properties
and put an addition on the family home.
When Elizabeth was college shopping, Nellie agreed to drive her to St. Louis to visit Washington
University. They packed up the little red Ford Pinto and took the 6-hour drive. She thought
Washington University would be an excellent school for Elizabeth–not too far from Tulsa. Also, the
University introduced Nellie to port wine cheese, which she enjoyed immensely. Nellie didn’t really
want Elizabeth to go to Yale because it was too far away, and Nellie had never heard of it. Elizabeth
went to Yale anyway, and Nellie discovered that it was actually a pretty good school. She travelled to
visit Elizabeth at Yale during the first semester and then returned for Elizabeth’s graduation 4 years
later. This was the beginning of many journeys to visit Elizabeth as Elizabeth moved from place to
place. Nellie travelled to New Haven, CT; Berkeley, CA; Phoenix, AZ; Cheyenne, WY; and Salt Lake
City, UT. Nellie also took a church mission trip to Panama in 2000. She was the cook and kept track
of the expenses for the team. In 2001 Nellie travelled by herself to China. She was most impressed
with the Pearl Tower in Shanghai. Nellie returned with a handmade quilt of the Chinese zodiac that
still hangs in their living room. In 2025, Elizabeth and her daughter, Alice, travelled to China and made
a point to visit the Pearl Tower so they could report back to Nellie.
During the Greyhound bus trip from Tulsa to Berkeley, Nellie missed one of the connections and got
into Berkeley late. This was before cell phones and there was no way to communicate the delay to
Elizabeth. At the appointed time, Elizabeth went to the bus station to pick her up. Nellie was nowhere
to be found. Her bus arrived, but she was not on it. Elizabeth waited for an hour. She searched the
halls of the bus station over and over again desperately looking for her dear mother. Thoughts raced
through Elizabeth’s mind like “I’ve lost my mother. What am I going to tell my brothers?” Dejected,
she returned to her apartment in Berkeley. Hours later, there was a phone call. Nellie had finally
arrived at the bus station and all was well.
Nellie loved her three grandchildren: Kathryn, Alice, and Alex. Nellie took care of her grandbaby
Kathryn for 6 months in Phoenix and Nellie travelled often to visit Elizabeth and her family. They took
a family trip to Niagara Falls, a life-long dream of Nellie’s. In November 2014, Nellie and Elizabeth
took a road trip for Nellie to finally see Las Vegas. While they were out, they also went through
Colorado, Utah, and California to visit family and friends from Burma. In all, they travelled 4,500 miles
with Elizabeth driving and Nellie comfortably settled on the back seat of the mini-van.
When Elizabeth moved to Salt Lake City, she purchased a condo with the thought that one day Nellie
would live with her. Nellie had severe arthritis in her knees which limited her mobility. The condo was
handicap-accessible and had underground parking with an elevator. It was perfect. In May 2021,
Nellie finally announced, after years of prodding, that she would move to Salt Lake City. She had lived
in Tulsa for 50 years, but most of her friends had passed away, and it was becoming increasingly
difficult to care for herself. Elizabeth and Nellie lived the last 5½ years together in Salt Lake City, Park
City, and finally Idaho Falls.
On August 16, 2026, another door opened for Nellie. It was a door she had patiently waited for God
to open. Although her body declined, although her mind declined, her spirit was always strong. Her
faith in God never wavered. And now she has returned home.
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